Socrates knew! Where have all the Grandpas gone?  So many Grannies and Grandpas disappear before you expect which makes you think about where the have gone and what happens when they get there. Grandpa and I think about this because observation says that it going to be us before too long! We already think in terms of our absence. We wonder who will want those things we have treasured. We hope that we can pass on safely what we received from our own Grandparents. We wonder what the future holds for us and for those who have been part of our lives. There are some wise people who seem to know and they say that when you do the dying, you aren't there, you are already busy choosing where you go from here! You, the apparently dead and gone will be facing major decisons!! They, the wise, like Socrates say that you may choose to go back to the world you have left or you might choose a totally new life. If you are drawn back to your old life, you should remember that what we think was perfect in that life, was in fact rather flawed. Parenthood presented not only the perfect new baby, it meant worry about schools, health and morals. It kept us awake at night! That lovely garden which we tended had outbreaks of carrot fly, frost, drought and tomatoes which ripened when we were away. We still think in an unreasonable and dotty way that going backwards might be the best option. The wise say that it isn't, they say go go go for freedom from repetition and I say that meditation is the best way to do this!